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… scheiß drauf!

A No to other people's expectations. A Yes to yourself.

Paperback · 154 pages · €19.99
ISBN 978-3-6963-9418-9
E-book (ePUB) · €15.99

Book details checked on 21 October 2026. Current delivery information is available in the bookshop.

Cover of … scheiß drauf!

What it is about.

You can be reliable and still lose yourself. When consideration becomes a permanent way of life, there is often little room for your own voice. “… scheiß drauf!” starts at precisely that point: the moment you realise your Yes no longer fits who you are.

The provocative title stands for a clear decision. It is about expectations you no longer want to meet without question, boundaries without endless justification and responsibility for your own path. Someone who constantly adapts does not need another external standard. They need the honesty to recognise their own again.

Who this book is for
For people who keep going, avoid conflict and repeatedly put their own needs last.

Book excerpt — translated from German

From the foreword.

This book is an invitation to look at those answers again. Not to judge the past or seek someone to blame, but to understand. Because understanding often changes more than resistance. On the following pages, you will discover thoughts that feel familiar. Some questions will challenge you. Others will stay with you for a while before their true meaning unfolds.

From the foreword · ISBN 978-3-6963-9418-9

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Is this book for you?

  • You often say Yes and then feel annoyed with yourself.
  • You want to question other people's expectations and express your boundaries more clearly.
  • You are looking for direct thoughts and questions to examine your own principles.

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For further reflection

Three questions for you.

  1. 01Which expectation are you meeting purely out of habit?
  2. 02Where would an honest No also be a Yes to yourself?
  3. 03What might a boundary look like that you would actually maintain?

One question a week. Time for your own thoughts.

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The books and linked retail excerpts are in German. Passages shown on this website are translated from German; they do not indicate an English book edition. The WhatsApp channel is in German.