HERR A.Your boundary is not an invitation to negotiate.
Why a boundary does not need endless justification, and how to stand calmly by your decision.
Reflections from Herr A.
Thoughts that stay with you.
A question every week. Here you can keep reflecting long after the week has passed.
All posts.
Not every thought is a fact.
What you may see differently today: check facts, recognise interpretations and act clearly on new insight.
The decision you put off for others
Why waiting drains your energy, and how two honest sentences can become a first clear step.
Make room for what does you good
Time for what does you good: small pockets of freedom, your own needs and enjoyable moments without pressure to perform.
“It's fine.” Or is it?
If your answer does not match how you feel, pause, be specific and correct a hasty commitment.
Saying No, even when the guilt stays.
Three practical steps for a clear No: assess the request, give a brief answer and stand by your decision.
Pause for a moment. Come back to yourself.
Five short mindfulness exercises for work and everyday life. Choose one and try it during your day.
Stepping out of the victim role
On boundaries, self-reflection and the uncomfortable insight that taking responsibility is not the same as blaming yourself.
When I want to be heard as a father
A personal account of information, conversations and responsibility in parental conflict.
When a role no longer fits
On adapting in ways that once helped, and the moment when you can choose again.